The men in Buganda have Ssengas and Jjajja’s to couch them.As you already know, Baganda of Buganda are basically farmers. They have always grown almost anything because the land was fertile, The sun was always there and the worry was rain or no rain season.
Their main food was all types of bananas including Matooke, Ndiizi, Bbogoya and Gonja for eating. Then there were embidde for banana beer or wine, whatever you call it in English. In addition Baganda grew groundnuts, beans, peas and all sorts of green vegetables.
Furthermore, they had goats, chicken, and a few cows from our neighboring herdsmen. With chickens came eggs. All over Buganda there was fish of some kind and Baganda fished for food. There were also fruits, passion fruits, guava, avacadoes, oranges, tangerines, nkenene, berries, papaya amakoma mawanga etc etc. The list is quite long. When one says there were only Matooke and nothing else, I do not understand which part of Buganda they grew up in.
To cut the long story short, when preparing for marriage, the Muganda girl was taught how to cook and take care of her future husband; not only in the bedroom, but also in the kitchen and at the dinning table. Whatever Matooke contain for nutrition content, they were always served with: beef, chicken, goat, groundnuts, or fish stews or whatever the lady of the house chose to accampany Matooke with. The combinations kept everyone health, men and children alike.
Some of the foods a woman was taught to feed her husband before and during marriage, were eggs, chicken, fish, raw groundnuts because they were known for being good for the man especially in the bedroom. Something else they always talked about was hot pepper. When you say a Muganda man is left by his woman because of issues in the bedroom, I do not get it. The system had everything taken care of.
Then came western education and the Baganda men were the first to go to the schools before their girls, but the tradition continued. The men accepted the British jobs after school, but the traditions at home continued. The Muganda man has always been the head of the household. Even though husband and wife disagreed, there would be no shouting at each other. They would go to bedrooms when children were asleep and talk respecting each other. I do not know how much of this culture is still alive today. I have not been in Uganda to observe.
Traditionally, if there were issues of anykind in the bedroom, the Ssengas , Jjajjas were informed, because marriage was not for the two in it it was a family affair and community affair. Everyone wanted it to succeed. They would come up with remedies.
If Baganda women today leave their Baganda men, or get acquired by other men from other tribes in Uganda or overseas, it is not because of Men’s inneficience; it is because many people know the Buganda culture pertinent to women and want a piece of it for themselves. Besides many of us have gone to school learned the Queen’s language and tend to over look the tribal differences because we can communicate and get careers.
Again, it has nothing to do with the Muganda man. Times are changing so first and our cultures are getting eroded fast too. Just because I am a Muganda woman, does not mean I have to marry a Muganda man as in the old days. Where I am located any man with qualification is candidate and I will make a choice. Just because you are a Muganda man, it does not mean you have to be married to a Muganda woman. The doors are open to you for any woman in Uganda, Kenya, Tanzania, Ruanda, Canada, USA and the list goes on. I trust you get my point.
Assumpta Mary Kintu