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Day March 16, 2015

”Every married woman has at one time or the other been raped by the husband.”—-Miria Matembe

”Every married woman has at one time or the other been raped by the husband.”—-Miria Matembe

There are many incidences quoted to support that statement and I do subscribe to that school. According to most feminists and also some national constitutions especially from western countries including Canada, a husband rapes his wife when he has sex with her without her consent. If you do force your way without getting clearance from Mrs. Ssekajja for example, you commit rape and you will be charged like any other man who rapes another woman who is not his wife. You have to apply to her and get her permission to get those goodies. The same applies to the wives, if they want sex and you are not ready, she has to sleep looking at you without disturbing or else you accuse her of indecent sexual assault; she has to ask you gently and if you accept, then it is okay. Even when you turn on the bed, you have to do it carefully to avoid being misunderstood.
Sad to say it but that is the nature of equality of rights. It is good to be aware of these laws especially if you find yourself in some countries where such laws apply. I felt sorry for my Ugandan brother who found himself behind police bars in Toronto because he demanded for and got sex from his wife without her consent. We used to meet in same church and all looked fine until one day I met the guy when he had just been released on police bond. He narrated to me his ordeal and cursed Canada for such laws. I advised him to adjust accordingly since we are in Canada!

Miria Matembe is right; may be her vocal utterances and coarse voice which betray her, and may be failure to explain how a man can rape his wife, is where our leaders create problems to their constituents.

Still blaming Miria Matembe?

Peter Simon Via UAH forum

Don’t know how much is left to privatize now in Uganda?

President Yoweri Museveni announces a retreat from Privatization.Don’t know how much is left to privatize now, but I guess it was inevitable when we embraced Capitalism.

Does government have the capacity to run its business well now?

Should the government go with the contract idea, private investors can be given the choice to provide services for a given period during which government will still have oversight with the option of renewing the contract or using other investors on another run?

Private investors are very crucial to the economy of our country and government has to be the largest employer but must improve its auditing procedures to make it all work.

Eddie, M.D Via UAH forum

Our dear parents are departing too early in Uganda

It is inexplicable how these great pillars in our lives are departing one by one” buli lukeera nga tuwulira nti omu kubazadde baffe agenze bambi Naye nga Muli tuwuliira nti agenze bukyaali”. They protected us during the most difficult period of civil war in Uganda. We mourn their passing while seated on nails of deep pain -steeped in the knowledge that our nation can do better with the care of our aging folks-who continue to fall victim to illnesses that have known fixes. We remain perplexed and frozen with grief from thousands of miles away wondering why the country has not been able to implement simple medical safeguards that could sustain lives.
We have placed our trust in our institutions with the hope that this trend will be reversed.

Our losses are unquantifiable – how do you begin to enumerate such a loss due to lack of adequate care. I hope our institutions in the Diaspora and at home will begin to address this issue as an agenda item. Our heartfelt condolences go out to the Iga family -and all those who have lost their parents way too soon. We are standing with you at this most difficult period of your lives and simply asking folks in our government to do something about it. May GOD give you strength to endure and may they all rest in peace eternally.

Tendo Kaluma via UAH forum


Saddens me each time I read fates befalling our neglected elderly. A couple of years ago I sat down in Ottawa with my Toronto nephew and a friend and the issue of our Acholi elderly arose. In fact, the majority of Uganda’s neglected elderly population should be classified as needy “orphans”. When you walk across one in the village he or she will play tough but deep in the eyes one can read abundant destitution and above all, loneliness. When I suggested a program in SAI (Str8talk Africa Initiatives) to plan for residential homes where we can convince them to move and be cared for in one of many such across Acholi my nephew said much as it was a good Western idea the fact was the Acholi elder doesnt is one who will never accept but that didnt stop us. We shelved the idea – for now.

In no time an organization called NUROWAS (Northern Uganda Relief Organization For War Affected Seniors) was formed by a prominent Acholi woman in the UK strictly for the neglected elderly. This organization has for the last few years given abundant support in numerous forms to the elderly of Acholi and growing each day in area coverage. NUROWAS recently participated at a health conference in LA.

Does the government of Uganda know of its existence? Yes. Has the government of Uganda requested to lend a helping hand in its works? No. A Nigerian Igbo saying goes “Ours is ours but mine is mine”. This is what it takes to deliver care in Uganda. Its a dog-eat-dog society in the motherland and we cant wait for God bcos he never comes when we need him the most.

I still intend to open a senior’s home for the elderly destitute in my immediate home area to start with in memory of my grannies. As my neph pointed out, the discouragement will come if and when they refuse to abandon their dilapidated shelters for a room with all the comfort they would never have imagined.

Its a workable idea – culture and pride permitting. In fact, we even joked about some of these elders meeting soulmates for the final lap of their lives and wedding in these homes – much to the joy and happiness of their clans, children and grandchildren at a time they would have expected ends to everything in their drowning elders’ lives.

I grew up with my grannies and these were the happiest days of my life. Listening to how they spoke about how they dated, the rivalries, and the eagle eyes of my grandma’s brothers fixated on the clandestine antics of the then young Spanner Boy at the Catholic mission in the 1900s that my grandfather was before becoming actual moto mechanic always made me believe my truest friends were only the elderly.

The elderly are also treasure libraries of unwritten history. My granma had special tattoos on specific parts of her body which she used to display with plenty of excitement and confidence. The tattoos were for kills she made in tribal wars with the Madi. Fact. The Acholi woman used to go for wars with her husband and should a husband spear an enemy its the wife to extinguish the enemy’s life with a blow of her little but lethal axe. Those were her kills.

When a young pretty girl walked into our yard to interview my old man on the historical background of Puranga Ginnery for her field work after being referred to him by the ginnery management, she didnt know what she was walking into. Her life was to change forever. Immediately my old man saw her, he told me his heart leaped into his mouth. Aa few days before I went home fir the hokidays I too didn’t kniw what awaited nme at home. To cut a long story short, that girl was to be my only daughter’s mother – courtesy of my old man. My baby girl is now in the middle of her nursing degree. The old man had set up a perfect scoring match and I didn’t disappoint him.

Its us to take care of the elderly in our communities bcos NO BODY and NO NGO will ever do the needful for them. My immediate elders are long gone but memories of them continue being relived in those elders alive in my home even tho they arent ny immediate relatives. That doesn’t matter.

One of the programs (we call them Initiatives) of SAI is the Bag To School (coined out of Back To School in the West). I have started on this initiative with two schools near me in Montreal. Students here like replacing their school essentials annually and for some they receive them in excess. Take for example, school bags. Many have more than one in their homes. What we call Mathematical Instruments at home are sold in dollar stores for a dollar. Many drop away their barely worn snickers or not worn at all. All theie school bags are waterproof.

Here is where SAI is coming in. We are arranging with mall owners to place in their premises huge garbage bins labeled for the purpose of people dropping in them school bags and school essentials including math sets and snickers which will ocassionally be offloaded at a temporary warehouse where volunteers from schools and my church will short and repackage them at random for shipment to Northern Uganda where students walk for miles to schools and many in the rains which ruin their books and all. The BTS initiatives aims at relieving them of these sad odyssey. My church is ready to ship the first container or containers.

Problem is what happens on the ground when they are received. I can’t leave my job to go manage its distribution and let alone we still haven’t planned on as to how they will be distributed. I should hope in a few years this initiative grows into schools all across Canada and beyond to address the most pressing element of student life in rural Africa.

we can do many things on our own initiatives without NRM participation and low-lifes like our Wellesley ‘frienemy’ who is always thinking in the negative to discourage us such as to live like he does. There is only one problem. We are not organized.
Gwokto La’Kitgum Via UAH forum


The idea of helping the elderly is exactly what I am trying to do. I am in the advanced stages of setting up a Lango Benevolent Pensions Fund whose primary purpose will be assist to all of the elderly of Lango, beginning initially with the 70+, widows and widowers and those with dependents under 16. The idea is to give them a basic monthly pension, just like here in the UK, say £50 per month. This pension would be means-tested, ie eligibility would be based on verified income and other means of support. The second aspect of the Fund would concentrate on addressing basic poverty issues, for eg I am going to set up a food bank at suitable locations through-out Lango where elderly people can come and collect food parcels, attend mobile clinics and collect simple medications and clothing or have their homes repaired or re-built. Lastly the Fund will help the elderly with small interest loans to set up viable small cooperative scale businesses.

I have been selling this idea now for at least 2 years and so far I have raised over £250,000 in commitment but I need a starting capital of at least £500,000. My estimate is that about 100,000 Elders will initially qualify. From an organisation I worked with in the Philippines recently when the Tsunami struck destroying most homes, I have learnt a lot how to mobilise funds for people who have been struck by disaster or those facing imminent emergency..Most of the Filipino Tsunami victims have now had new homes built for them, I have made contact with at least three organisations who helped the Filipinos and all of them have told me to let them know when I am ready, and they guarantee they will build these homes in less than 6 months. The obstacle I am having is the same as yours, in that, I can not build each elder his own house in his or her compound as this will sky-rocket the cost. They would have to agree to live in small sheltered units of say 30-50 homes, not in single self-contained bungalows. This would also make it easier for facilities like water, electricity, sanitation etc to be connected.

But for the project to succeed needs me to be there personally, but my commitment in the UK still does not allow me to stay in Uganda for much longer than two weeks at a time. This is a relatively simple project, but it needs a team of very dedicated and honest managers to make it work.

I know the elders have suffered more than any other age group under the fascist regime of Yoweri Museveni Kaguta. I am not going to allow their suffering to continue for much longer if I can help it.

I am also working with the Dokolo Catholic Diocese to build a Community Technical School for 150 school drop-outs. This is completely private. I have not spoken about it here because it would have been premature. Right now as we speak, the buildings are going up. I am building the school in memory of my late father. The latest Collection I sent to them was a £50,000 donation from the Catholic Churches of England and Wales. Your Nubian nitwit who resides at Wellesley Avenue thinks all I do in London is drink beer. He does not realise the extent of my commitment to humanitarian causes in my homeland and elsewhere in the world.


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